Maybe it was just me, but I felt like in high school you always had to be texting people. Or at least, look like you were. But I didn’t get an iPhone until a few weeks before graduation senior year, so I had some slide phone with a keyboard and a very small touch screen.
Granted, the phones back in 2010-2012 weren’t the best, so I guess the design hindered texting ability. But realistically, only a few friends were texting me, and maybe my mom, because this was before she really knew how to use a phone. (Now she’s literally the only person who texts me and is always sending me pictures of our cat while I’m at work.)
And in college, I guess I texted people, but it was more to make plans, confirm plans, or let someone know you were on your way to their room. The only person I constantly texted while on campus was my boyfriend at the time, but that makes sense. (But even then it was to confirm our schedules or meet up somewhere, because we lived near each other, so we just hung out in person.)
I think I’m looking at this through the lens of “dating” and “talking” in 2018. You text to “talk” now, and honestly, I’m not that kind of person. I guess it stems from not really ever constantly texting someone, so I sometimes find it to be a hassle to keep up a conversation with someone. Like my life isn’t all that interesting to talk about what I do during the day. (I go to work, sometimes go for a run, watch Netflix or sports, and go to bed at 9:30 p.m. Nothing to write home about.)
I really only text people for one of three reasons: 1. it’s your birthday; 2. I have a quick question; or 3. I’m confirming plans. That’s it. I don’t like the whole “hey, how’s it going?” thing. I mean, I do occasionally text friends to catch up, but even then, it’s you talk for a couple of hours maybe and then make promises to meet up soon or hang out—which we all know doesn’t happen.
I’ve found my response rate time is growing, but I try my best to reply within a reasonable amount of time. (I never not text someone back.) If it’s something urgent, then I’ll text back right away, but if it’s just a regular conversation or “talking”, then I take some time to reply. I’m not doing it to be rude or anything, but I’m all over the place lately, and I don’t want to be attached to my phone all the time. I get that other people are busy and aren’t going to reply right away, so I hope people understand the same of me.
I think we expect everyone to be on their phones 24/7, but with all of the other notifications and messages and everything we’re consuming, it makes sense that sometimes we want a break from technology. What are your thoughts on texting? Do you like it or hate it? Find that it’s a necessity or something you could do without?