It’s been 10 months since I went on a date, and it’s been almost four months since I deleted Tinder and Bumble off my phone.
I’ve never had good luck with dating, or really guys in general. I didn’t have my first relationship until I was 20, and we dated for almost a year and a half. We were long distance when we weren’t at college, and it kind of messed things up. We broke up… well, it’ll be three years come this August.
Since then, I’ve been on one date with a guy from Bumble, another date with a guy from Tinder, and a third with a guy from I originally met on Tumblr.
Moral of the story: I need to stop going on dates with guys from the Internet.
My co-workers have joked and said they’ll set me up with friends of theirs, but nothing’s ever come of it.
I’m used to be on my own, really, so I’m okay not being in a relationship. I like coming home after work, putting on sweatpants, and watching TV. (And when it gets warmer, I’ll go for a run, and then put on sweatpants and watch TV.)
But I do miss having someone to do stuff with, to go on trips and adventures with, and someone to talk to throughout the day. But I think that timing is such a big thing, and you can’t force chemistry. If it’s not there, it’s not there.
And let’s be honest: dating is hard, whether you’re just going on dates or actually in a relationship with someone. Sure it’s worth it in the end and you get all those butterflies, but right now, I don’t need that extra stress or worry in my life.
Back in college, I tried to force something that never ended up happening, and I stumbled into my relationship with my ex. I think that’s how it goes, sometimes. You find yourself with someone when you least expect it. So that’s my philosophy right now.
We’ll see what happens.