Quarter Life Crisis

I’ve recently heard 25 referred to as “old” while someone asked my mom if I was married yet.

WHELP.

People I know from high school and college are getting engaged, getting married, having babies, while I’m just here. There has to be something in the water, right? It seems like as soon as June hit, everyone is doing adult things.

And here I am, doing my own thing. Being single. Living at home. Posting on this blog.

But I’m okay with that.

Everyone else is hitting these big life milestones while I’m still sleeping in my childhood bed and hanging out with my dogs and reading a book a week. I know that my time will come, that life has some bigger plan for me, but it’s just hard to not compare where you are right now to where other people are in their lives. Social media doesn’t help. Never has, never will.

I know in the grand scheme of life, 25 is still young. And my generation is starting their lives later on. There’s no big clock somewhere in the sky, ticking down until I’m supposed to get engaged, or get married, or buy a house, or have kids. I can do whatever I want. And if something isn’t in the cards for me after all, then so be it.

I still have so much to learn and so much to do before I want to “settle down”. I want to pay off all of my debt—student loans and car payments—and I want to get a good year or so under my belt at my job before I think about moving out. My parents aren’t kicking me out any time soon. And as for relationships, at this point, I’ll just become a crazy dog lady. It seems easier.

When you were 25, what did you think about life? (Or if you’re not 25 yet, what do you think you’ll be doing at that age?) Did you think you’d be where you are today?

7 comments

  1. When I was 25, I was restating I guess? Going back to school (teachers college) and starting down a path I didn’t think I’d be going. So it was a nice change of pace for me. A new challenge! Don’t worry about what others are doing. You’re doing great and exactly where you need to be

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  2. I’m starting to think we’re all misinterpreting what a quarter life crisis is. Maybe it actually means that we live in crisis mode for a quarter of our life, rather than it happens AT the quarter point of our life. Postpone your next birthday for as long as possible, it only gets tougher.

    What a negative comment this was…..

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  3. At the age of 39, I still live under the delusion that I’m in my mid- to late-20s. It’s a true delusion that’s shattered every time I try to do anything physical. Did I think I’d be where I am now? Probably not. I’ve never been much of a long-term planner. So I probably didn’t have a prediction for my late-30s at that point. I should probably get on that. Set some goals… maybe by my late-40s I’ll be where I should have been 10 years ago.

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    • It’s kind of like how I think 2013 is only a few years ago, not six. I think it’d be good for you to set some goals! Even just little attainable ones, to give yourself something to look forward to or work toward.

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  4. I think when I turned 26 is when I started to freak out. It’s because I was not married, engaged, and I did not have a house. Also, I was not happy career wise back then. I understand at 25 why you have those thoughts. It is hard but as long as we are doing things that make us happy we should be okay. I feel like the rest will come, when you do things that make you happy.

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