As promised, here are my answers to your questions you asked in my post last week!
What has been the hardest thing for you to handle on your own?
I think the hardest thing has been just living alone for the first time in my life. I lived at college on campus for three years—after commuting during my freshman year—but I had roommates I lived with then. Now I’m truly on my own, and even though it’s been six months already, sometimes I get lonely. I’ve been working on things to do so that I don’t feel super lonely; I’ll go for a walk, plan out my errands so that I’m at least getting out of the house more, call my mom, or make plans with friends or Josh. It’s definitely still an adjustment, and the cold and darkness of winter in New England didn’t help. Hopefully, as the weather gets nicer, I’ll be able to get out more and be less cooped up alone.
Given an unlimited budget, what is something you would like to add on to or include in your home?
I’d love to have all of the wall-to-wall carpet replaced with hardwood floors. The only non-carpet areas in my condo are my entryway, kitchen, and both bathrooms. I don’t mind the carpet but I’d prefer to have hardwood floors throughout. I like the light-colored wood floor in my kitchen and would want to have something similar throughout.
What do you find fulfilling in life? What gives your life purpose/meaning?
One thing I find fulfilling in my life is doing things that make me happy or things I enjoy. That includes reading, going for a run, watching sports, or even just hanging out with my pets at my parents’ house. It’s easy to get caught up in all of the little things in life—which I certainly do—so I often look forward to the things that make me happy.
And one thing that gives my life purpose is being there for others. I’ve always been a caring and considerate person, especially for the important people in my life. Whether it’s being there during the good or bad times, it means a lot to me when I can be there as support for others.
What’s been your favorite and least favorite part of living alone?
My favorite thing is being able to decorate my space. When I lived at home with my parents, I really only had my bedroom to decorate, but now I can decorate every room here to my taste and liking, and it’s been a fun process so far.
My least favorite thing is having to do all of the chores myself. It took me a little while to figure out a good chore routine—I was saving them all for the weekend and stressing myself out—but now I think I’ve got it under control. But still not fun to do all on my own.
Lady A’s Question
What is your idea of a perfect dessert or pudding?
After working at an ice cream shop for 11 years, I’ll never say no to ice cream for dessert. I’ll eat ice cream year-round, but there’s no better way to end the day than going to get ice cream after dinner. As for other desserts, I’m not a big cake person, but I do like cookies and brownies. Ice cream would be my #1 choice, though.
What would Becky from 2012 think of your life today?
I think 2012 Becky—at age 18—would be pretty impressed with my current life. When I left high school, I sort of knew I wanted to do something in the communication field, but I didn’t think you could have a job managing social media accounts. Old Becky would laugh at the fact that current Becky runs for fun and would be surprised that I have a boyfriend (I never dated in high school, so I just assumed I’d never be in a relationship). I didn’t have plans then to ever get my master’s degree, but I got it right after I finished undergrad. And I think Old Becky would be surprised to see that current Becky bought a condo and is living on her own, granted across town from my parents, but still—moved out and is managing to keep herself alive.
(This question makes me think of this post I wrote in December 2020 and where 16-year-old Becky thought she’d be in 10 years.)
Do you look up restaurant menus online before going in person, or would you rather be surprised?
Paul, it’s like you don’t even know me. Of course, I look up restaurant menus before going there, especially if it’s a place I’ve never been before. And if that’s the case, then I’ll probably look at their Instagram, too, if they have one, to see what the restaurant looks like inside or what their food looks like.
When you started your blog, did you think it would last this long?
Nope. I started this blog back during my junior year of college (here’s my first post) and I don’t think then I’d still be using this seven years later. But I’m glad I still have it because it’s been a great outlet for me to write and get to know all of my blogging friends.
Will you/are you considering getting a pet of your own?
I’d like to get a cat at some point. I can have two cats or a dog up to a certain weight (I think it’s 50 or 60 pounds) per my condo board’s rules; as much as I’d love to get a dog, I’d want it to have space to run around, and I think living on the second floor would be a hassle when it comes to bathroom time. So I’d be looking to get an indoor cat.
The foster organization we got Stella from (my cat who’s at home with my parents) often has older cats up for adoption, like a couple of years old, and I’d most likely adopt a cat through that group. They only adopt out kittens in pairs, and two cats would be too much for me. An older cat would probably be my best option.
*Yes, I allowed Josh, my boyfriend, to ask some questions as an avid reader of my blog.
What are places you always wanted to go but have never gone?
I’m asked this question a lot once people find out I’ve never flown before, but to be honest, I don’t really have a list of places I absolutely want to go. Travel, in general, isn’t a big part of my life, so I sometimes feel weird when people ask me because my answer wants to be, “Yeah, I just like to stay home.”
But I don’t want to disappoint Josh, so here’s a list I’ve put together after a lot of thought:
- Boston, Massachusetts
- I’ve been to Fenway and the Science Museum but I’ve never really explored the city outside of those places, and I’d like to do all of the fun Boston things.
- Portland, Maine
- I’ve heard a bunch of good things about Portland and I think we’re going to go there this summer.
- Newport, Rhode Island
- I ran a 5K race here a few times but didn’t spend any time in the city. It looked super cute and I’d love to go back.
- Cooperstown, New York
- I went to the Baseball Hall of Fame back in middle school but I’d love to go again.
- Washington D.C.
- Free museums and historic stuff—why not?
- Just park me on the beach with a fruity drink and a pile of books.
- Family on my mom’s side came over from there in the early 1900s, so I think it’d be cool to visit the country to see where my family came from.
- Just seems really pretty and a fun place to go.
(And yes, I’m aware that the U.S. locations are all on the east coat. I don’t know what else exists west of that. If anyone has any suggestions I can add to my list, leave them in the comments.)
What if there was a movie made about your life, who would you want to direct it, and who would play you?
I’d choose Amy Poehler to direct the movie; she’s only directed one movie so far—Wine Country on Netflix—but I think she’d provide a great comedic perspective on my life. I’d want Lucy Hale to play me. I’ve always thought she was pretty and I really like the short hair she recently had.