I’m not sure why it’s taken me 24 years to realize this. Maybe it’s because I’m watching a lot of Hallmark movies with the cliche families or maybe it’s because I watched a Keeping Up with the Kardashians marathon on Sunday. But there’s one thing I will absolutely never be able to do.
Know what it’s like to have a sibling.
I’m an only child. Always have been, always will be. I’m sure my parents would have had another child, but it just wasn’t in the universe’s plans, so they’ve been stuck with me. I’ve always said, though, that my pets are my siblings.
I know that there are stereotypes that come with being an only child, like that we’re spoiled or selfish or bossy or are too dependent. It all depends on how the parents raise the child.
I got a job at 16 (the ice cream job I still have), I’m literally the queen of the introverts, and I honestly get along better with adults than children. I’m fine with being alone, and I’m fairly self-sufficient. Yes, my parents still pay for some things, but that comes with the territory of me still living at home. I pay for mostly everything for myself, including my bills and my pesky student loan. I think maybe the #OnlyChildProbs were more evident when I was younger, because all of my friends had siblings that were around their age. Now I feel like since we’re all adults, it doesn’t seem as obvious since everyone kind of lives all over the place now.
But I’ll never know what it’s like to have a sibling. I wonder if I would be different if I had one. Maybe I’d be a little more care free or more outgoing. I’ll honestly never know, because that was completely out of my control. I’m so used to being an only child, and it’s nice to know I don’t have to deal with sibling fights. Or additional family drama. Yeah, I occasionally butt heads with my parents, but I can’t blame anything on a sibling.
Whenever I get married—assuming I can find a guy that won’t ghost me after the second date—it’ll be interesting for me to see another family’s dynamic and if I get any brother- or sister-in-laws. I know it won’t be by blood so it’ll be different, but it’s the closest I’ll ever get to siblings.
Are you an only child? Do you have siblings? Do you think you or your life would be different if you were an only child/had more or less siblings?